Watch: Why This Woman Doesn't Want To Date Indian Men

A reel she shared on July 12 has got a lot of attention. Now let's see what she said that sparked the internet. 

The reel opens with Chakravarty chuckling and saying, "I don't date Indian men anymore" giving top reasons behind it. 

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Reason 1: Don't know how to have a difficult conversation

She first says, "They have not been taught to have difficult conversations." She further adds, “When they cannot argue a point, they become quiet and label the woman as argumentative or aggressive, or they become egotistical and abusive." 

The second reason she gives is that Indian men do not understand romance. 

Reason 2: Do not understand romance

Chakaravarthy says that Indian men think romance involves planning dinner dates and gifts. But, as per her, romance is in small regular gestures. She said, "They think it is planning one dinner date every month, but they don’t realise that romance is about tiny gestures every day. It’s not just about buying her gifts every now and then….It’s about making your woman feel she matters and like she is taken care of." She further adds, "So it is not just about buying her big gifts and grand gestures."

Reason 3: Do not know housework

Giving another reason, Chakravarty says that Indian men do not know how to keep the house tidy even though they are living in it. She says, "They don't know how to take care of a house. No this is not about doing 50-50 in a home or doing chores in a home every day." She adds."It is about stepping up to take care of the home because you live in it too not because you are doing a favour to your partner."

Chakravarty captioned the reel by saying that women today find communication and presence more than anything else. She said, "The reason my single clients find love and can navigate the crazy world of dating is because I've been there, done that and my tools are tried and tested. There is nothing an urban, educated girl of today finds sexier than communication and presence."

Then she says that her opinion might not be the same for others. She writes, "One of the users said, "The opinions expressed on my account are solely mine. They are not necessarily the views of anyone else, especially my family, friends or clients. They are not meant to influence or dictate anyone's decisions and are by no means a rule of thumb." 

Polarised reactions of netizens

Netizens have a divided response because some agreed with what Chakravarty said while others felt it was too far from the limit. 

One of the users said, "You nailed it, babes…. And yet. We do find some men raised well... or who raised themselves into this consciousness that is mutually beneficial to each other”

Another user wrote, "You have some valid points. But it also shows how women have enjoyed patriarchy, and nurtured it to pass it on to other generations for their benefit. The way women have raised their sons for their benefit and how they make sure that this system continues speaks volumes about them as well." 

While another user said, "No it’s not about being an Indian man … it’s about the experience you had with the men you came across! I have fabulous men who are my friends and I am married to a man who perhaps does more than I do for our home!
He wakes up earlier than I do." 

Yet another said, "Maybe you are just talking about your bad experiences but you shouldn’t label it as a country!"

She also got bland responses like, "Blaming others for her own bad choice in men. Basic feminist behaviour"

“Do you think you deserve a man who does all things to you... Before telling how men should behave. Behave like a woman first..” wrote another.