Women Need Reassurance, Not Gifts: How Difficult Is It For Men To Understand?

Those of us who were raised in brown households would not have witnessed our fathers expressing their love by saying "I love you" to our mothers. Usually, husbands would bring their favourite flowers or, at the very least, compliment their wives for the meal after any argument or fight. It's men's vintage way of showing love and reassuring things to women.

It's universally known that a relationship does not always remain the same; situations change, people change, priorities change, mentalities change, and phases change—in short, everything changes. Forget marriages and husbands; even in a relationship, boyfriends and girlfriends change. All agreements and a few disagreements eventually result in many disagreements.

Women Need Reassurance: Why Men Don't Automatically Support Need

We, women, are aware that disagreements, conflicts, lows, and downs are inevitable in relationships. We don't pick fights just to fire you up; we want healthy discussions and debates, and what we get is a changed personality. An uninterested human with disrespectful behaviour who then comes up with a sorry that even they don't know why they are saying. Dear men, we don't always see an apology or being sorry as the solution. And once again, at most, a gift or a compliment. Everything is evolving, but men still continue to behave in the same old reassuring ways.

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Women, on the other hand, do not see a conflict as the end of the relationship; instead, they wait for their partners to talk things over and come up with a middle ground to make things work out. They see this as an opportunity to grow as a union amid some ups and many downs. And, it’s almost scary to see our partner, with whom we are closest, quickly lose patience and compassion. Thus, despite resenting things, you can boil things down by just asking whether "are we okay" or "should we talk right away, or do we need more space to understand this?" rather than getting annoyed and acting rudely.

Resentment is what slowly kills the relationship. As women invest a lot of emotion in their love relationships, this will only keep them from feeling insecure about it. The sentiments will get more powerful the longer you let them boil; they might range from feeling anxious, worried, emotionally detached, unappreciated, or even completely depressed. These phrases of reassurance are something that calms, comforts, or restores confidence, can make a big difference.

Your rants, arguments, rude behaviour, and bad attitudes cause women to feel trapped and as though "things are not okay." It's challenging to simply overlook these actions and not take them personally. Before their fears take control of them and make the issue worse, they need to talk it out. So, be open and honest. Communicate.

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