Twitter User Slams Bride For Dancing On Wedding; Why Does Society Police Women?

'A bride shouldn't dance' should not be the first thought of a person after seeing a bride happily dance on her wedding day. It is difficult to muster up negative emotions seeing the smiling faces of the bride and groom. A joyous occasion filled with dancing and laughter is something to be celebrated. Unfortunately, a Twitter user who expressed his displeasure at the scene cannot share this sentiment. According to him, a bride shouldn't dance at their weddings.

The Twitter user expressed his displeasure with the dancing bride and said that “This should be stopped."

In yet another example of ridiculing and mocking women for their interests, the Twitter user judged the bride for enjoying her wedding in her own way.

A series of confusing and unfounded statements were made in the replies, such as one user calling it a “bogus trend”. The user also made the “bogus” claim and saying that dancing was not “an expression of happiness” and that the bride wanted to show off how “woke” she is.

Rather than letting the bride enjoy her wedding, people thought it was appropriate to criticise her for enjoying herself. Also, what does being woke have to do with dancing at a wedding?

The inoffensive video instantly offended people and they began making jokes at the bride's expense and judging her based on the clip. The critics immediately began making negative comments because she went against their belief that a bride shouldn't dance at her wedding.

A Bride Shouldn't Dance At Her Wedding? Why Not?

Dancing during Indian weddings is a very common occurrence. One of the pre-wedding events is the Sangeet, where both sides of the to-be-wed couple’s family join to dance and sing the night away. Dancing is a celebration of the wedding and the act of dancing at a wedding is not a “trend”.

Even if dancing at weddings was not common, there should be no issue with celebrating and having fun during a wedding, especially if you are the bride. In the clip, the wedding guests are seen smiling and clapping along. Yet presumptuous people who do not even know the bride and groom think they should have a say in other people’s weddings and their way of celebrating.

Twitter User Criticised For Saying The Bride Shouldn’t Dance

Fortunately, some Twitter users were quick to call out the tweet and criticise the bizarre opinion. One user said that the bride was not doing anything against the law or harming anyone, and asked “What’s the issue?” with the bride dancing.

Another user described the critics as “haters” and said they were constantly searching for reasons to criticise other people’s happiness. One user said “people have been dancing in marriages since time immemorial” and said that people should be allowed to dance during the event.

When Will We Stop Trying To Control Women?

From criticizing women for anything they do to attempting to control them, there is no end to misogyny. Is it a crime when women celebrate and enjoy themselves? Why not let them make their own decisions.

Due to ancient beliefs like 'a bride shouldn't dance', brides who want to dance on their wedding day are met with contempt and critics leaping to pass judgements and make harsh comments about them. An individual may disagree with brides dancing on their wedding day but that does not give one the right to shame and abuse people whose views are different and they exercise it.

Shaming people for not following your personal preference is self-centred and controlling behaviour. Women have the right to make their own decisions, if that decision is to dance at a wedding, then nobody can get in the way of that decision.

Views expressed are the author's own

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