Toxic Masculinity Alert: When BF Wants GF To Break Up With Her BFF

As humans, we play different roles in our lives; we all have different relationships with different people, and we try to balance each with equal dignity and honesty. But have you ever been in a situation where you were forced to choose one relationship over another? If yes, I'm not sure about who put you in that situation and when, but every woman who has been in a relationship must have once faced the situation of having to choose between her boyfriend and her best friend. If you too have faced this, you were in a tough, toxic, and terrific situation, and here we will dive deep into this, so be ready to face some harsh facts.

Friends are the families we chose, and the bond with friends is the bond that absolutely no other relationship can replace or even come close to. Good friends are good for your soul and mind. Boyfriends and girlfriends on other hand are friends who are equally precious and play equally important roles in one's life. The only difference is that when your boyfriend or girlfriend gives you hard trips in the relationship, your BFFs become your extended selves; they get equally involved in that trip with all their soul and mind. And vice versa, if your BFF only gives you hard trips, please rethink if he or she is the one you should consider your BFF.

Never mind, the point here was that both BF and BFF are important characters in women's lives, but when a man in a relationship asks the woman to choose one of them, where do they get the audacity from?

Considering if the BFF is a girl, it's obvious that your girlfriend can’t steal you from him, but he hates her, which may be because she knows you better. He wants you to break up with or stay away from your girlfriend, and this is of course ridiculous for you but not for him. And if your BFF is a boy, there are very few to no chances that your BF likes him or is on good terms with him. And he must have advised you to end your relationship with your boy-best friend. The reason could be anything but considering them the biggest competitor.

Signs Of A Toxic Partner: When BF Wants GF To Break Up With Her BFF

If your boyfriend wants you to break up with your best friend, without considering any of his reasons and without sugarcoating anything, here are some harsh facts about him: It's not love, nor anything close to it if a person's jealousy turns into dominance. Your BF is just extra heavy on toxicity because he wants to own your life and make your life decisions.

In general, jealousy is negative and can lead to irrational behaviour that is backed by superiority and dominance. There may be cause for concern if your man becomes so intensely jealous that he wants you to break up with the other important individual in your life. I'm sorry to burst your bubble, but your man has a toxic personality, and his jealousy has turned into dominance, and he just wants to assert his power and dominance over you.

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And if your partner is that dominant, you might make an effort to adjust for a while. But spending time with someone who only seeks to control you can become very suffocating after a while. There's no need to put up with this kind of behaviour if he barely understands what personal space in a relationship is like and frequently steps over your boundaries without admitting guilt. You don't have to end your friendship with your best friend, but you do have to get rid of this person and his attitude.

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