5 Tips To Build A Great Bond With Your Mother-In-Law

It is often believed that mothers-in-law are to be perceived as our second mothers, or in some cases, they acquire the first place as those of our biological mothers. Even the Indian soaps are bifurcated in such a way that they stage two different personalities of mothers-in-law: on one side, there are the benevolent and sombre mothers-in-law who treat their daughters-in-law with esteem and take cognizance of their opinions and views. In this case, the daughters-in-law also reciprocate the same respect for their mothers-in-law as well, however in every relationship, there must be some space for exceptions as well; on the other side, there are mothers-in-law who are strict and rigid, thereby creating a substandard for themselves.

To some extent, their values and actions are scripted as extremely atrocious that their daughters-in-law are often compelled to become uncompromising on the grounds of their diabolical actions and perspectives. However, keeping the real purpose of these so-called “saas-bahu” scripts in mind, they are meant to inspire the audience, and at the same time, these soaps also represent the slice of life.

Besides these scripted shows, the actual household scenario may be expressly grave where the mothers-in-law deem their daughters-in-law as worthless strangers trying to delude their sons. The routinely brawls and arguments cantered around household chores to accusing one another of any possible mischief. These differences, quarrels and misunderstandings occur only due to the lack of understanding in the relationship. This bitter relationship is void of understanding due to the lack of love, respect and appreciation.

Therefore, here are some suggestive pointers on how to improve your relationship with your mother-in-law.

1. Trust is the first step: In any relationship, building trust and faith in each other is the very first step in strengthening any relationship. In order to build that trust, try to be as honest as possible. Remember, honesty is the hidden key to trust.
2. Respect each other’s views and opinions: Respecting each other’s views and opinions requires you to understand each other. Giving time to each other for expressing your views and considering them as important, can make your relationship better.
3. Be expressive: Express your love and appreciation for one another. This will help the other to comprehend your feelings and feel more valuable and appreciated. Remember, valuing someone for their efforts and making them feel special can work wonders.
4. Be considerate of the age difference: Dear daughter-in-law, remember your mother-in-law should be treated like your mother and vice versa. After all, she too needs, and similarly, a young daughter-in-law needs the confidence and support from her in-laws.
5. Try to spend quality time with each other: Spending time with your dear and near ones leads to attachment and knowing each other all the more. A good quality time spent can make the two of you more understanding of one another.

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