Bride And Groom Fight Over Sweets; Is Violence The Answer To Any Dispute?

Groom force-feeds sweets to the bride, and what follows has been viral on the internet. High-handedness by the groom and his family members is not a new thing. Baaratis are used to having their way. The girls' family must agree to all their whims and fancies. From demanding ACs at wedding venues to gold in dowry, all their demands are fulfilled for fear that they might reject the bride and subject them to lifelong shame and criticism. But is it right to blindly abide by everything that grooms demand? Is it right to consider them privileged just because of their gender? Of course,, the answer is not in violence either.

Recently, a video of a groom and bride fighting on the day of their wedding went viral. In the video, the groom was force-feeding sweets to the bride. While the bride, clearly irritated, slapped the groom on stage. Then followed a long fight between the two. The fight didn't stop even when the guests intervened.

The video is disheartening as it shows violence in the place where new relationships are formed. In a place where people promise to be together for life, a couple beating each other is not an ideal beginning. Moreover, the video clearly shows how the groom demands the bride to be submissive by agreeing to all his fancies. But why did this happen? What was the reason behind the ugly fight between the couple? If the bride refused, shouldn't the groom have stopped?

Bride And Groom Fight Over Sweets

The problem is not considering the will of the bride. Whether it is to eat sweets or do anything, you cannot force your partner. Neither partners have the right to deny and choice to the other. Because a groom is considered privileged by our society, brides can submit. Brides, too, have the right to get their demands and choices respected. However, it is rare for women to be demanding when it comes to marriage. It is often the case that women are asked to compromise when choosing a groom. If a groom is abusive, adjust because he is from a well-to-do family. If a groom is an alcoholic, adjust because he earns money. But why are we not teaching husbands to respect their wives?

Why are grooms considered privileged? Why aren't brides treated as equal partners in &t=1158s" target="_blank" rel="noopener">marriage? Why are daughters considered a burden that needs to be gotten rid of as soon as possible? Why are they married off to a man, no matter how bad he is as a person? Why is it so difficult for us to understand that if a groom is greedy for money and special treatment, the bride will have to put up with his attitude all her life?

Women Are Not Burdens

Let us unlearn the idea that women are burdens on their families, so grooms should be valued for taking over that burden. Let us understand that a woman has equal rights to choose, demand and deny when it comes to her marriage, career and bodily agency. Moreover, demanding something more than a partner in marriage itself is a warning sign that the bond is materialistic and not emotional.

The second problem with the video was the normalised violence. How the couple broke into violence shows how casual it is for married couples to fight violently. No matter who started the fight, violence is not an answer to any dispute. Discussion and peaceful reconciliation is always the best option to fix conflicts without leaving an unerasable memory. If we normalise violence to deal with disputes on small things, can we even imagine the intensity of the fight during larger issues?

Therefore, society must stop tolerating violence of any form. Normalisation of violence will always lead to the violent uprooting of society's harmony.

The views expressed are the author's own.