Marriage is supposed to be an union of love. A toxic marriage feels more like a trap than a relationship. You feel caged rather than loved. Many couples stretch their toxic marriages for years and don't even realise they are in one. The hallmark of a toxic marriage is that either one or both of you are unhappy or disturbed in your marriage.
Here Are 13 Signs Of A Toxic Marriage Everyone Should Know-
1. Your Partner Is Indifferent Or Distant
Your partner does not pay attention to you, whether the issue is big or small. It is a sign of disrespect. You might find your partner being indifferent towards you that is you often get this thought that he/she doesn't care about you. Sometimes partners feel distant from each other and do not connect as couples. There is a lack of communication and partners don't share things.
2. Your Partner Manipulates You
Your partner passive-aggressively manipulates you and turns everything against you. Some spouses tend to use guilt as a tool. Your partner may manipulate you into taking actions beneficial for themselves without caring about its effects on you. They may always try to seek pity or attention or have other selfish motives. You'll often find your partner giving you a silent treatment when they are angry.
3. You Don't Discuss Important Decisions
Your partner doesn't discuss important life decisions with and takes the onus for deciding everything themselves. They take it upon themselves to be the gatekeeper for both of your lives without. Your input is not required or needed. Many a times they start taking you for granted. One partner starts to behave like the flag bearer of the relationship and goes on to decide without partner's input.
4. You Don't Respect Each Other
Your marriage lacks respect and often disrespect each other. They don't respect you for who you are. Your partner starts to invalidate your opinions and doesn't value your thoughts. They don't accept your flaws and ridicule you for them. Basic decency and respect is missing.
5. You Blame Each Other
The blame game becomes becomes quite normal in your marriage. One partner always keeps blaming the other over everything. The more you stop taking responsibility for your own actions the worst it gets. No one is ready to take accountability. They tend to put blames for ruining things, making mistakes or anything wrong in their marriage.
6. You Avoid Expressing Your Emotions
Sometimes you avoid expressing your emotions to your partner because you feel they are not valued enough. Partners lose the emotional connectivity and intimacy. You don't feel secured and loved and trust and communication starts to fade away.
7. You Feel Controlled
One partner feels it right to control the other. The dominating and dominant narrative then comes into play. The partners don't remain equals anymore. One partner gets an upper hand over the other. Your partner feels they have the right to keep a check on you and your activities. They try to censor or regulate your actions or choices. You feel caged.
8. Your Partner Is Always Critical Of You
After the you cross a certain landmark in your marriage, you start knowing you partner more and more. You both start discovering each other's flaws. Your partner is always critical of you. Your efforts are not appreciated but they always pluck out flaws. This eventually hampers the relationship and partners tend to develop insecurities.
9. Your Partner Lies To You
You often catch your partner's lies. Your partner starts hiding things and lies to you when caught. From very basic to very important things you can smell lies everywhere. When you confront they either make excuses or gaslight or manipulate you. The foundation starts to degrade and the partners stop trusting each other.
10. Your Partner Gaslights You
Your partner gaslights you and invalidates your experience. They tend to make you believe that you are the problem. They make you question your sanity, decisions and perceptions. You start feeling that something is wrong with you and your partner is right. Your partner often leaves you in a self-doubting space.
11. Your Partner Abuses You
Physical or mental, any abuse in a marriage is a sign of a toxic marriage. Your partner constantly verbally abuses you or adhere to violence. You may be emotionally abused by your partner and won't even realise it sometimes. You are subjected to abuse on a regular basis and it is normalised in your marriage by your spouse. You marriage becomes abusive.
12. You Don't Value Each Other's Opinions
You feel that your thoughts or opinions are insignificant and they hold no value in your marriage. Your partner is not affected by your opinions. You start feeling that your opinions are insignificant and not needed in your marriage. Sometimes your spouse ridicules you for having unwanted or unasked opinions.
13. Your Partner Is Always Doubting You
Your partner is always doubting you and thinking you are not loyal to them. They are being over possesive and insecure. Your marriage lacks trust and doubt starts growing each day. They invade your privacy and you hardly get any personal space. You are often subjected to moral policing.
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