What Is Important To Know Before You Have Sex For The First Time?

Advice for first-time sex is hard to find as there are a lot of myths and misinformation related to many aspects of sex. Reddit users help out  by sharing useful information about first-time sex.

Asking someone close to you or your family members is difficult as one would rarely get vital information. They will probably hesitate to give such advice. Hence, people depend on online sources and porn to get information. However, these sources are not very credible as they depict some unrealistic aspects. Hence, it is better to know about sex from an experienced person if it's your first time.

Advice For First Time Sex:

Reddit is a very useful platform for anonymous exchange of thoughts that helps you express what's on your mind comfortably, as your identity is hidden. A similar thread on Reddit on what expectations and information should people have when they have sex for the first time is garnering many responses and is quite informative as it comes from other's experience and gives you many point of views.

One Reddit user wrote, "Have fun, don't take sex too seriously. There will be smells, tastes, noises, etc... Don't focus solely on the orgasms, enjoy the journey, and understand sometimes bodies are stubborn. Use it as an intimate moment shared with your partner, and enjoy yourselves." This advice reminds people to be comfortable with their partners as intercourse is about pleasure and not stress. It's not a project or assignment, it is a way of understanding your partner so focus on bonding.

While one user wrote, "seeing so many people talk about smells makes sex seem a lot less desirable" it is actually natural to smell as you have sex. The smell is from the sweat, the activity that happens in your sex glands and your body fluids and orgasms that is completely normal and natural. Just as this user writes, "to be clear, the aroma is distinct. Not and indictment or judgement... can be fresh out the shower, both of ya -doesn't matter. there will be a smell and THATS OK"

While having fun is a good thing, it is better to be cautious and use contraceptives and condoms. Unwanted pregnancy and STD's are not fun. This one user sums it aptly, "Sex is a skill you'll have to practise, so don't worry about doing well. That said: listen to your partner, and be open with them. Also use a condom and keep lube close. If one of you or both is using other forms of birth control, and really don't want to use a condom, keep towels nearby. You WILL need them. But i'll have reinforce: use a condom if you can help it. It's the only form of birth control that can prevent stds."

Communication is the key, be open to your partner about both of your needs and comfort. It will make things a lot easier. Talk out the things that you liked and the things that felt strange. It will surely deepen your bond and help understand each other better. Take precautions and have towels nearby as it will get messy and you don't want to ruin your bed sheet and mattress.

Sex education is not a very popular subject worldwide. Especially in India, where talking about sex is almost a sin. It is better to seek help from professions such as doctors and gynecologists to know more about sex if its your first time. Real life sex is a lot different from the one depicted in movies and porn.

You can also approach your friends, if they are comfortable, and ask them for tips and insights on what to expect from sex. It is better to have experienced and credible insight on what you are indulging yourself in so that you don't end up regretting your first time.

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