8 Signs You Are In A Sexless Marriage

You may wonder, "am I in a sexless marriage?" or "what's defined as a sexless marriage?". Is it one where you are suffering without making love or having mutually pleasurable sex? Is it one where only the man has his orgasms and you are forced to fake them? Is it one where romance and sex both elude you as a couple? There are many questions one might think of. Perhaps there is no one answer to what entails a sexless marriage but one can be sure, it's of a kind where at least one of the two people, if not both are unhappy.

According to Dr Rachel Becker-Warner, a marriage that's bereft of pleasure is one where “a sexless partnership is better defined as a conscious or unconscious avoidance of pleasure-based physical contact between partners.”

Here are signs that you are in a sexless marriage:

1. Lack of pleasure bothers you. Sometimes we may not know but we can be happy in asexual relationships and not have any interest in pleasure, love, romance or either. However if lack of sexual pleasure bothers you, then you are likely to be in an unsatisfied relationship and it's bound to be something that bothers you.
2. If the conversation about sexual intimacy isn't a priority for you, or you are indifferent or uninterested in  considering the state of sexual intimacy with your partner.
3. If you and your spouse touch your phones, laptops far more in an hour than you touch each other over a week. And if especially one of you gets too annoyed too often when they are disturbed from their phone activities.
4. When you share a bed but that's all. If most of the time on your bed is spent over your Whatsapp or Instagram update and there is absolutely nothing else except sleeping, you need to consider that a sign.
5. While emotions are not a necessary condition for sex, for some couples, it's an important factor. If one of you feels that sex without emotions is as good as no sex at all, then it's a sign that you may be unsatisfied and that whatever sex there is in the relationship, it's of no use.
6. You and your partner feel disconnected from each other and don't really final common ground or wavelength. For many couples, it's really important to be invested in a relationship and invested in sex. If you both are constantly fighting, and have no compatibility, may be you have a signal out there about where your relationship is truly headed.
7. One of you finds themselves using the spare bedroom until pretty late and isn't urged to go sleep with the partner. Prolonged watching bouts are more interesting than making out with your spouse, is another sign.