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Hush No More: Women Share Most Absurd Period Comments They Receive

Menstruation, a natural process for those with a uterus, faces myths and taboos. In a candid conversation with SheThePeople, several women bravely shared their personal anecdotes, revealing the absurd comments they've faced while menstruating.

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Ishika Thanvi
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Menstruation, a natural and biological process experienced by anyone who has a uterus, has long been shrouded in myths, taboos, and societal misconceptions. Despite efforts to educate and break the silence surrounding menstruation, uterus owners and menstruators continue to face absurd comments and ignorant remarks about their menstrual cycles.

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In a candid conversation with SheThePeople, several women opened up about their experiences and shared anecdotes that shed light on the persistent stigma surrounding menstruation. These stories bring to the forefront the absurd comments and societal taboos that women continue to face during this natural biological process.

Misconceptions and Scrutiny

“I think I would have endured period cramps EASILY.”

Maahika Kadel shared a statement she received while on her period, revealing a pervasive misconception that minimizes the severity of period cramps. This dismissal of menstrual pain contributes to the unfortunate trend of expecting women to endure silently, reinforcing the idea that their discomfort should be downplayed and overlooked. It is essential to recognize that pain experiences vary among individuals, and dismissing menstrual discomfort perpetuates a harmful narrative that overlooks the diverse ways in which bodies navigate and tolerate pain.

“Ew, why do you have a sweater around your waist? Think you’re Superman or something?”

Saanika once faced unnecessary commentary for having a sweater around her waist during menstruation. This really highlights the societal scrutiny women often face for their clothing choices during their menstrual cycles. The stigma surrounding visible signs of menstruation, like carrying a sweater, emphasizes the importance of fostering a more understanding and sensible environment. Unsolicited and unnecessary commentary on women's appearances during menstruation only adds to the challenges they face, highlighting the need for respect and empathy. In short, it's a reminder that the last thing women need during menstruation is judgment or criticism for their choices—it's disrespectful, period.

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“That’s not what it’s called, though.”

Juvina Thaker's encounter with a man who questioned and attempted to correct her description of PMS exemplifies the all-too-familiar issue of mansplaining. When she candidly shared her experience of premenstrual syndrome (PMS), the man's refusal to accept her terminology and his insistence on correcting her choice of words highlighted the broader challenge women face in having their experiences acknowledged and respected.

This incident calls for the pressing need for society, and particularly men, to validate women's experiences, especially when it comes to their own bodies. The persistence of mansplaining, even in matters as intimate as menstrual health, speaks to a larger issue of societal attitudes that undermine women's agency and understanding of their own bodily functions. The insistence on denying or correcting a woman's reality regarding her own body perpetuates harmful stereotypes and contributes to a culture that undermines women's autonomy. The lack of empathy is honestly scary. We don't need you to explain what is happening to us. And no, you cannot ‘deny’ our reality.

Misinformation and Impurity Culture

Misinformation surrounding menstruation perpetuates harmful norms and practices, imposing upon women's lives under the guise of purity culture. This culture falsely labels women's bodies as impure and unholy during their menstrual cycles, creating a web of restrictions that affect various aspects of their daily lives. It's important to note that this issue isn't confined to ancient times; it persists in contemporary society, with women in the age group of 19–22 sharing their experiences, particularly in urban settings.

In some parts of India, the belief that bodily excretions, including menstruation and childbirth, are polluting prevails. This perspective leads to communities viewing women and girls as potential sources of impurity or misfortune during menstruation, resulting in imposed restrictions on their behaviors, such as avoiding religious ceremonies, religious spaces, handling food, or even sleeping in their own homes.

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The anecdotes provided by women shed light on the prevalence of absurd norms and comments surrounding menstruation, perpetuating misinformation and reinforcing harmful beliefs.

"It's all that chicken you're eating that makes it hurt so much."

Jacqueline Jimmy's encounter with the comment exemplifies the misguided beliefs linking dietary choices to menstrual pain. Unfortunately, the strange connection between food and menstruation continues to be marred by illogical and ridiculous beliefs, highlighting the importance of accurate education for women's health. Dispelling such myths is crucial to fostering a more informed society.

"It's a good thing! All the impure blood goes out of your body."

Purva's experience with the comment highlights the deep-rooted cultural beliefs associating menstruation with impurity. In reality, period blood is not 'impure,' as science has repeatedly clarified. Challenging such outdated beliefs is crucial for fostering a more positive perception of menstruation and dispelling beliefs that have no basis in scientific understanding.

"Don't touch the plants. Plants chuoge toh voh marr jaayenge."

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Ananya Jhunjhunwala's encounter with this superstition reflects an age-old belief linking menstruating women to negative outcomes.   For young girls experiencing menstruation for the first time, being told that anything they touch will turn bad can lead to internalized beliefs of impurity, potentially fueling long-term issues like extreme internalized misogyny and low self-worth. This has got to stop. 

“So I was probably 8–9 years old at the time and I got curious... and I asked my mom why my aunt was outside the whole time, and instead of maybe teaching me the basics of menstruation, I was told she was sick.”

Tanya Savkoor's recollection sheds light on the pervasive misinformation and cultural taboos surrounding menstruation in her hometown. While some members of her family residing in big cities embrace what they label as "modern," there is a stark contrast when they return to our native village, where they find themselves bound by regressive beliefs. From an early age, she witnessed the discriminatory practices imposed on menstruating women, as her aunt was relegated to the veranda, forbidden from entering the house through the main door, and restricted to using a separate bathroom with a direct exit to the toilet. The purpose behind such architectural design and seclusion seems rooted in archaic beliefs, perpetuating the notion that menstruating women are impure or should be kept separate from the household. Tanya's inquiry as an 8- to 9-year-old was met with a response that epitomizes the secrecy and shame associated with menstruation—instead of imparting knowledge, she was simply told her aunt was "sick."

Fast forward to Tanya's own menstruating years, and the enduring stigma becomes evident. The need for discretion in disposing of pads and the fear of being ostracized if her menstrual status is discovered highlight the prevailing culture of silence and concealment. Women are compelled to hide their natural bodily processes, even at the cost of their own comfort and well-being.

The association of menstruation with sickness, as conveyed by Tanya's childhood experience, reflects a deep-seated societal misunderstanding. Menstruation is a natural and healthy bodily function, yet the prevailing narrative often taints it with negativity and shame. 

The reluctance to discuss menstruation openly contributes to the perpetuation of myths and the lack of proper education surrounding this natural process. When women are made to feel "sick" or different during their menstrual cycles, it not only impacts their physical well-being but also reinforces harmful stereotypes, hindering progress toward breaking the menstrual taboo.

"You're trying to poison her mind with these dirty things."

As a fortunate child who received early education on periods from her mother, Oshi found herself in a position to help a fellow girl who lacked similar knowledge. However, her attempt to provide support was met with disdain from a teacher who accused her of "poisoning" the other girl's mind with "dirty things." This highlights the prevalent stigma surrounding menstrual education and the reluctance of some educators to address the topic openly. 

Oshi's intention to assist her peer in understanding the natural process of menstruation, including using pads, was misconstrued as something inappropriate. The teacher's misguided response reflects the societal discomfort surrounding menstruation, perpetuating harmful notions that periods are "dirty" or inappropriate to discuss. Oshi's story emphasizes the importance of breaking down these taboos and fostering an environment where young girls can openly and comfortably learn about their bodies. Open conversations about menstruation are crucial for empowering young girls with knowledge, dispelling myths, and eradicating the unnecessary stigma associated with this biological process. Periods are not ‘dirty’, and it is essential to promote a narrative that encourages healthy discussions and understanding about women's reproductive health.

 

These anecdotes expose the absurdity and ignorance surrounding menstruation that women still face in various aspects of their lives. By sharing these stories, we hope to contribute to breaking down the stigma surrounding menstruation, fostering understanding, and promoting open conversations about women's health.

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