Woman Shamed For Changing On Video, Netizens Call Out Sexism

Social media influencers come up with new content to engage their audience, and one such trend is "Get Ready With Me (GRWM)." These videos have been gaining a lot of momentum in recent times. As a part of this trend, influencers show the details of the clothes and makeup they are going to wear and some even share glimpses of themselves getting dressed.

A Twitter user has now shared a video of a female influencer’s "Get Ready With Me" without her consent. Further, he has shamed her for getting dressed in front of a camera.

Woman Shamed For Changing On Camera

The video shows the woman getting dressed in a white lehenga. Sharing the clip, the Twitter user wrote, Ab ye ladkiya Insta par hi kpde badal rahi hain koi kuch bol dega to bolegi ki humare kpde nhi tumhari soch chhoti hai (Nowadays women are changing clothes in front of the camera; if someone comments, they’ll say that it’s people’s thoughts that are only small and not their clothes.)

The video has gathered over one million views since being posted. Many netizens have criticised the man for his sexist remark and for posting the video without the woman’s consent. For once, it’s good to see that people are recognising where the problem is instead of jumping in and shaming the woman.

There is nothing obscene about the video. The woman just shares glimpses of her getting dressed into a lehenga while wearing lingerie, which is very normal as long as people don’t sexualize or objectify women. So, if anyone finds the video objectionable, they are viewing women as objects of sexual gratification, and they need to change for good.

Can't Society Just Stop Sexualising Women?

Besides, there are several videos of men posting similar "Get ready with me" videos, and no one has had a problem with that just because being shirtless or semi-naked is a privilege that men are born with. Several men have participated in the GRWM trend and posted videos of themselves getting dressed. Even otherwise, men posting shirtless photos have never been problematic.

No one even gives a second look at shirtless men because no one objectifies or sexualizes men. While it's normal for the waistband of a man’s underwear to show through his pants, the slightest hint of a woman’s bra strap is considered "unsanskaari." It’s as if people just wait for women to take one tiny step away from the conventional box so that they can immediately swarm in like bees and pour in unsolicited advice.

This video, too, wasn’t an exception. After the Twitter user posted the woman’s video without her consent, a lot of people filled the comment section with disgusting remarks. While I do agree that there need to be certain boundaries in social media, there is nothing objectionable in this video for people to make a fuss about.

One user wanted to know if the woman’s parents didn’t mind their daughter making such videos; another user asked if they could get the "full video" for research purposes; a third user called her shameless and wondered why such women even needed dressing rooms if they just changed in front of everyone."

A Welcoming Change Indeed

Amidst the sexist comments, it was welcoming to see some people calling out the user. One person pointed out sarcastically that the user didn't feel ashamed to post the woman's video without her consent, causing other men to slutshame her, but was bothered that a woman had made such a video.

While another user said they disliked GRWM videos of men and women, they believed that people equating the video with voyeurism were delusional; they don't seem to have understood the concept of consent. Although the number of sexist comments exceeded the supportive ones, it seems like a positive start. Hopefully, more people will realise that the real problem lies not in women exercising their bodily autonomy but in people sexualizing women.

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