"When are you getting married?" "When are you having a baby?" "Have you planned for a second child? You know, your kid needs a sibling to play with." Family, friends and the brethren in our society have these questions, phrases and "unsolicited advice" ready for women and honestly, it's exasperating to keep answering their baseless questions time and again.
It starts hurting after a point because they keep poking at your insecurities and also create a stressful environment when all one wants is to relax, at least with their family and friends. This Reddit user though might have solved all our woes with hers! The user by the name Thasyojar2013 on Reddit's most-loved thread AITA shared her story.
Woman Makes Pregnancy Jar
"My husband and I have been married for 6 years. Still don't have kids (we want them but it still not happening). Friends and family are causing us constant stress about having a baby soon but it's obviously something we can't control. We only wished that they'd stop but to no avail," she starts off explaining.
"So what I did was come up with an idea (stupid I know) that has an empty jar and call it 'Pregnancy Jar'. I carry it with me in my bag whenever I'm with friends and family and every time someone asks when my husband and I are gonna have a baby, I pull my Jar out and ask them to drop a dollar in there for asking. I'd get puzzled looks but they reach out for their pockets/wallets/purses and pull out a dollar and put it inside the jar," she added.
Well surprisingly, her idea worked! She further stated that four months into this, her family and friends actually stopped asking about when the couple was going to conceive.
But things don't always remain hunky-dory, do they? Well, that's what happened with this user when her brother brought up the question and she pulled her infamous jar out. Her brother eventually put a dollar but her mother was fuming because she "embarrassed" her brother in front of his family, she wrote.
"Mom pulled me into the kitchen later to tell me that I embarrassed my brother in front of his wife and family and said I should quit acting childish by running around with a jar demanding others to put money in it, I told her they should quit asking then," she noted.
The Reddit user later said that their probing continued despite her making it clear that the question upsets her and had gotten worse over the last year.
Other users were impressed by the woman's creativity and so are we! A user wrote, "A beautiful way to make a point that words apparently don't. And you can use it to get yourself a spite snack!" Meanwhile, another user quipped they'd "steal" the idea. They wrote, "I will be stealing this idea for both myself and anyone I ever advise on the issue. IT.IS.BRILLIANT. Because it brings the absurdity of the question (and by extension the questioner) to an even more absurd plane. You have figured out how to out crazy people that ask without looking crazy yourself."
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