Woman Elopes With Money Parents Gave Her For Wedding; Buys A Home

Unequal treatment meted out to daughters and sons is very common in most families. Almost every daughter across the globe feels discriminated against because of their gender. While their brothers are encouraged to study, have a job and a rich lifestyle, girls are asked to marry and settle down as soon as possible. Even though the social order is changing today, some things remain the same because they have deep and strong roots. However...what if women finds a loophole in the system? What if they sneak out of the system unconventionally? Will they be right? Let's explore this further.

 A woman recently took to Reddit to explain the gender discrimination she faced at her home. She said that her parents gave $50,000 to her brothers after they graduated while she didn't get the same when she completed her graduation. 

On Reddit, the woman wrote, "My parents gave each of my brothers $50,000 when they graduated from university as a downpayment on their home. When I graduated they did not do the same for me. I asked about it and they said my husband should provide. I wasn't married. I still lived at home."

Three years later, she met her potential husband. After dating for a year, the duo got engaged. 

The woman further wrote, "My parents were overjoyed. When we set a date they gave me a check for $50,000 to pay for the wedding. WTF?"

Her parents basically gave her the money to have a lavish wedding for their friends and family. However, the woman was not happy with this and took a wild decision. Do you know what?

The woman's rebellious act

The woman explained, "I took the check and we eloped. We then used the check for a downpayment on a house. My husband had a similar amount saved up so we are in a good spot with equity." 

This rebellious decision fumed her family who wanted a lavish wedding. The woman said, "My parents bare [sic] furious that they didn't get a big wedding for all their friends and family to attend. They said that they gave me the money for a wedding."

She further explained her argument by writing, "My argument is that I got married and had leftover money. Accurate in my books. My brothers are on their side so I am here to ask if I'm in the wrong. AITA?" 

The woman did have a wedding however, it was not as big as her parents wanted it to be. Even though they attended the wedding, they were angry with her decision. 

The gender discrimination practised in every family

The entire incident shows the deep-rooted gender discrimination followed by the families. The fact that the woman's parents considered it more important to spend money on her wedding than her empowerment after graduation reflects the importance of marriage of a woman in our society. Her education, empowerment and independence are all summed up in her marriage. A woman is supposed to enjoy all the freedom and financial support after marriage and under the supervision of her husband. You must have heard the popular meme- "Daughter: Can I go for a solo trip? Mother: Do everything after marriage" 

However, is marriage a freedom or a boundation? Does marriage allow a woman to live her life or to live for other's lives?  

What should parents 'choose'?

Even if daughters rebel and do it anyway, parents make them feel guilty for not obeying them or hurting them. However, I have a question- who is more stone-hearted- the parents who restrict the freedom of their daughters or the daughters who attain it at any cost? Society will growl at the latter but the law will allow it since protecting human rights is its duty. 

So dear parents, stop being rigid and orthodox. It is neither helping you nor your daughters. How? If you will be stubborn, your daughters will have to be rebellious. Do you want to live in dissatisfaction the entire life or do you want to feel proud of your daughter's empowerment? The choice is yours.....actually, there is no choice. Gender discrimination is wrong and can never be a choice. 

Views expressed are the author's own.