If you were under the impression that feminist men are a rare breed, listen to what this Kerala man has to say. In a moving post on Facebook, Habeeb, a native of Palakkad district in Kerala, recently shared his side of the family planning story and explained the ordeal a woman goes through thinking whether to bear children or not.
“Why is the responsibility of family planning imposed only upon women and not men?” Habeeb questioned. He took the burden off his wife’s shoulders and underwent a vasectomy himself
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In his recent post on social media, he is creating a lot of buzz. He explained strategically why it’s a better option for men to undergo vasectomy.
Habeeb said after the birth of their second child, he and his wife, Anju, were considering permanent contraception. That's when he offered to go through the procedure on him rather putting his wife under the knife.
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Why? Because unlike many men, Habeeb understood that a woman’s body is much more complicated. Also, why should it always be the woman who has to do everything when it comes to family matters?
“We decided that if Anju were to undergo another Caesarean section, then she would get a tubectomy done in the same procedure. Otherwise, I would get a vasectomy done,” he wrote
After discussing all the options, they decided for him to undergo vasectomy, a surgical procedure for male sterilisation. He also said the procedure took hardly 20 minutes and he was up on his feet in no time.
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“The doc said that there should be no need for any extra precautions except for not doing things like raising something very heavy for a week. I came home and started eating and drinking. The next morning, I walked in the usual way,” wrote Habeeb.
He stressed upon the fact that tubectomy, which is a female sterilisation method, is a comparatively costlier and complicated procedure
“Vasectomy is a simple procedure. It will not affect ejection, ejaculation or orgasm. It is a relatively painless surgical procedure with a shorter recovery period. There are no restrictions as such, and sexual relationship can be resumed very soon.”
“At the same time, tubectomy is a major surgery. This is the best option for those undergoing a caesarean since both can be completed at the same time. But what if you have a normal delivery? For this procedure, you will get general anesthesia and the recovery can take about weeks. The possibility of infection and other complications are relatively high.”
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He then questioned, “Why is it that when it comes to family planning, we don’t opt for a relatively simpler option like vasectomy and make women undergo a more complex procedure?”
At the end, he had a piece of advice for women.
“So, dear women, at a time when both men and women have equal options to partake in family planning, when there’s a much easier operation than the one you will have to undergo, if the man is lovingly pushing you towards the surgery, you must tell him, “You go and undergo this procedure”. Anyway, it’s not as challenging/demanding as giving birth to a child.”
The eye-opening post has garnered more than 2,000 reactions, 500 likes and 200 comments so far.
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