Why Is It So Difficult To Form Friendships In Your 30s? Kusha Kapila Reflects Upon

Actor and social media personality Kusha Kapila, who relocated to Mumbai last year, has opened up about the challenges of moving to a new city and making friends in her 30s. The Thank You For Coming actor, known for her candid and relatable takes on life, shared her experiences of adapting to Mumbai’s fast-paced lifestyle while navigating the complexities of building friendships at this stage in life.

Kusha Kapila Talks About Friendships In 30s, Reveals Who Her Mumbai Friends Are

During an appearance on the Moments of Silence podcast, Kusha spoke about the difficulties of forming new friendships as an adult. Reflecting on the dynamics of social circles, she said, “At my age, it is not easy to make friends. People are set in their ways, gangs are already made. I also think of it like we also have a group of friends, and we will not let a new person join the gang easily. Let’s be honest! If the friendships are spanning like 15-20 years, a new person would either be a boyfriend or girlfriend.”

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Discussing her experience in Mumbai, she admitted feeling uncertain about people’s intentions. “In Mumbai, I am confused! Does this person really wanna hang out with me? So now I am just friends with my team who come and visit me,” she added.

The podcast host, Naina Bhan, also noted that people in their 30s often live vastly different lives, with some focusing on marriage, pets, or parenting. Kusha acknowledged this, adding, “It is a very lonely experience for women who are mothers and their single friends are either not married or don’t have kids because if you have kids, you really have to find a network of people who also have kids. So two of my friends have kids; it's very isolating for them. We are still talking about random things. I am still up on some days till 3 AM and hanging out at random scenes. Their lives are so dramatically different.”

She also highlighted how the isolation works both ways, explaining, “The way it is so isolating for us, what will my married friend with two kids understand about being a single girl in the big city? It is the same for them.”

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Life in Mumbai

Earlier, reflecting on her move from Delhi to Mumbai, Kusha shared how the city has transformed her. “Moving to Mumbai has been fantastic. I'm not a stranger to the city, considering I've been working here for the last three to four years. But it's very fast-paced as compared to Delhi. People are workaholics here,” she said.

Describing how the city influences her energy levels, she added, “I think I'm a different person when I'm in Mumbai. I am very charged and always on my toes when I’m here.” Kusha Kapila’s candid revelations resonate with many navigating life changes and new cities in adulthood.