Troll Tells Karan Johar To Get His Mom ‘Bahu’: Dude, Crass Is Uncool

It is not easy to be a public figure in today's day and age. The advancement of social media has also led to many people using the platform to unnecessarily criticise and spread hatred against public figures. One such incident happened recently when filmmaker Karan Johar came across a troll. Johar, however, remained calm and gave a befitting reply to the user.

Johar received a comment that said, "Bahu laa do maa ko time pass nhi hota hoga." But giving a fitting reply, Johar set an example for everyone on how to deal with trolls. He said that out of all the comments that he receives, trolls like these are the most "offensive". He further explained by saying, "Firstly no 'bahu' should be a time pass for anyone's mother...a bahu is a label which comes with ridiculous regressive baggage..she is an individual in her own right and can pass her time how she likes personally and professionally." 

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My mother co-parents my kids with me: Karan Johar

Johar also said that his mother does not need anyone to pass her time. She is busy in co-parenting his children with him. He said, "My mother co-parents my children with me and doesn't need any "time pass"... her life is complete by the love we receive from her and do our best to give it back with all our heart!"

Johar also talked about his need for a life partner. He said, "And bringing in a "bahu" Is not an option to whoever is concerned about my relationship status! My children are blessed to have my mother guide us all... and in life if I were to have a partner I would do so to fill my void, not anyone else's! Thank you for listening."

Why Karan Johar's reply is empowering

In his reply, Karan Johar very rightly pointed out that a bahu should not be a time pass for anyone. Men in our society are often asked to get married just because their mothers need rest. In other words, the bahu is only seen as a person who takes care of the man's mother and the kitchen. She is not seen as a better half of the man but as the domestic labourer replacing the mother in the house. Moreover, the idea that bahu will help her mother-in-law in passing the time is also rooted in the idea that bahus are stay-at-home workers who don't have to earn.

But as Johar rightly pointed out, a bahu has an individuality of her own. She is not anyone's helper or a medium to pass the time. She is the better half of the man in the house, an equal inheritor of the property and a powerful voice of the family as a whole. She is not hired to take care of the family. She is married to be an equal part of the family.

A bahu, as Johar points out, is not there to fill the void of others. However, I would also add that she is not there to fill the void of even her partner either. When you fill someone's void, you have to adjust yourself according to the shape and size of that void. Similarly, if someone marries just because they feel lonely in life, they will expect the partner to fill their loneliness in the way they like. The partner will have no say in it and will have to adjust as per the needs. 

So the only right reason to marry is when you are ready to give someone else equal treatment in your life. The right reason to marry is to have a life partner whose success, rights and freedom do not irk you but rather make you happy.  

Views expressed are the author's own.