Matthew Perry Death Anniversary: Our Pick Of 10 Iconic Chandler Bing Moments

The world bid farewell to one of the most beloved actors of our time, Matthew Perry, who portrayed the iconic character Chandler Bing on the hit TV show Friends on 28 October, 2023. Perry was reportedly found dead in a hot tub at his Los Angeles home, law enforcement sources told the LA Times. Perry was known for his role as the quick-witted Chandler in the American show 'Friends', which ran for 10 seasons from 1994 to 2004. He received a Primetime Emmy nomination in 2002 for the same.

Chandler's self-deprecatory humour, sarcasm and charm made the Friends character relatable for many of us. In his 2022 memoir, Friends, Lovers and the Big Terrible Thing, Perry wrote how he often felt the role was made for him.

"It was as if someone had followed me around for a year, stealing my jokes, copying my mannerisms, photocopying my world-weary yet witty view of life…" he wrote.

"It wasn't that I thought I could play Chandler; I was Chandler."

The notable part of Chandler was how often he was self-aware, he was awkward but sweet, he would deflect away from his vulnerabilities with humour, but also come of age sooner.

Today, we celebrate his character by highlighting ten Chandler moments from the series that showcased his feminist spirit.

The One with the Blackout

In "The One with the Blackout," Chandler finds himself trapped in an ATM vestibule with the stunning Jill Goodacre, a Victoria's Secret model. While his initial excitement is palpable, Chandler's transformation is evident when he realises that Jill needs a friend, not a pickup line. He sets aside his silly antics to make her feel comfortable, putting his best foot forward to save her from an uncomfortable situation. This moment showed Chandler's growth and understanding that women aren't just objects of desire.

The One with Mrs. Bing

Chandler's relationship with his mom, Nora Tyler Bing, takes an unexpected turn when she kisses Ross. Chandler's initial disappointment is followed by a mature conversation with his mother, addressing his feelings and accepting her as an adult capable of making choices.

The One with the Flashback 

In "The One with the Flashback," Chandler notices Monica's insecurities and offers her support in a moment of vulnerability. Their tender hug, followed by Chandler's light-hearted approach to diffuse the tension, showcases his ability to provide emotional reassurance.

The One With the Joke 

In the episode The One with the Joke, Chandler's response to Phoebe's comments about Monica being high-maintenance is a shining example of acceptance and love. 

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He quips, "So they can say you're high maintenance, but that's okay because I like maintaining you."

The One with All the Candy

Monica's act of sharing candy to connect with her neighbours leads to pandemonium. However, Chandler doesn't stand idly by. He calls out the neighbours for exploiting Monica's kindness and failing to truly get to know her. This moment shows Chandler's values, highlighting the importance of mutual respect and his readiness to take a stand for his loved one. 

The One with Chandler's Dad 

In a heartwarming scene, Chandler confronts his estranged father, who is now a woman named Helena. This moment is an example of Chandler's acceptance and willingness to embrace his father's new identity, showing that love transcends gender and personal transformation.

The One with Monica's Boots

In Season 8, Monica purchases an expensive pair of boots that leave her feet in agony. She's determined to show Chandler that her purchase was worth it, but her pain is evident. Chandler's response is an exmaple to his character; he asks her to take off the boots and carries her on his back. This simple and innocent action beautifully highlights a man who prioritises his partner's comfort over her need to prove herself.

The One with Christmas in Tulsa

When Chandler's job takes him to Tulsa during Christmas, Monica fears a potential affair with a former Miss Oklahoma runner-up.  However, Chandler's decision to quit his job in Tulsa, choosing his family over professional success, challenges traditional gender roles. It reflects the idea of prioritising emotional well-being and togetherness over the demands of a career.

The One With The Donor

Monica's desire for a biological child is met with Chandler's openness to explore the option of a sperm donor. However, their final decision to adopt shows the thoughtful idea that parenthood goes beyond biology, emphasising that love is what truly defines a parent-child relationship.

The One with the Birth Mother

The final season 10 when Monica and Chandler travel to Ohio to meet a potential birth mother. Their predicament arises when the expectant mother, Erica believes they are a reverend and a doctor. When the truth is revealed, the birth mother initially rejects them. Chandler's passionate plea to convince Erica, the birth mother, is one of the most beautiful scenes in the series. It exemplifies how far he is willing to go to ensure Monica's happiness.

Chandler's words in this moment are particularly touching: "I love my wife more than anything in this world. And it... It kills me that I can't give her a baby. I really want a kid. And when that day finally comes, I'll learn how to be a good dad. But my wife... she's already there. She's a mother... without a baby."

As we reflect on these moments from 'Friends,' it becomes clear that Chandler Bing was not just a comedian but a feminist icon who grew, evolved, and embraced love, acceptance, and authenticity.

His character's transformation from a sarcastic, commitment-phobic individual to a supportive partner and friend is a classic example of the positive portrayal of evolving masculinity on screen. Matthew Perry's portrayal of Chandler Bing will continue to inspire generations and remind us that, in the world of 'Friends,' feminism wasn't just a women's issue; it was a shared journey of growth, acceptance, and love.

Suggested reading: Remembering 'Chandler Bing': Matthew Perry's Life of Laughter & Struggle