Things I Don't Like About Indian Weddings

Indian wedding rituals are 'fun' until you delve into the details of the regressive history. And once that happens, you won't remain a fan of those 'big fat weddings' anymore. Women tend to feel obliged to follow the traditions and customs thoughtlessly. Many of the rituals are deeply patriarchal and majorly followed by women during the wedding ceremony because someone said so. These are now being called out and women are rejecting the idea of carrying the tradition forward.

However, many still, either unknowingly or unwillingly, perform these customary rituals because who isn't afraid of "log kya kahenge"?

Despite that women are standing up and speaking up against stereotypical rituals that we witness in standard Indian weddings. We bring you some glimpses.

Brides have to wear a lehenga or a saree at their wedding

The choice to ditch the traditional norm of wearing a lehenga weighing a ton shouldn't invite any judgements towards the bride. In fact, the one who is getting married should have a say on everything regarding their big day and that includes the shaadi ka joda.

A male priest for the wedding ceremony

One conservative requirement that Indian families strictly follows, till date, needs to striked off the list. In no job does the gender affects the competence of a person, therefore, we need to show the door to this patriarchal ritual as well.

Brides cannot have fun at their wedding

A bizarre expectation people have from a bride. On the contrary, she should be having the most fun and show it too.

Only brides have to touch their husband’s feet

Taking the "mera pati mera devta" legacy ahead, woman are expected to touch their husband's feet. Often due to the age difference in the relationship, where the man is, generally, older the tradition lives on.

Brides are supposed to cry at bidaai

And how would they get those candid wedding pictures if they abide by this? A similing bride leaving her parental house is a change we all need to see more and accept too.

Brides should be shy and quiet at their wedding

The scale on which shy is equal to sanskaari measures how "perfect" the bride was on her wedding day.