• Working moms aren’t raising puppies Mira Rajput, feminism isn’t destructive!

    Mira Rajput really didn’t need all this publicity did she? A happy stay at home mom, talking down others? The world got to know her when she tied the knot with Shahid Kapur, now she’s giving the world a peek into the person she is?

    “I am proud of the label of a homemaker.”

    I have a set of responsibilities on my plate and my future is ahead of me. I can finish all my responsibilities and then I will have nothing in my way. I can raise my daughter, be a good wife, and set up my home the way I like. I wouldn’t have it any other way.

    “Why did I have her? Misha is not a puppy. I want to be there for her. Seeing her grow can’t be quantified.”

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    ON HER DAUGHTER MISHA

    When she makes a statement like “I wouldn’t want to spend one hour with Misha and then rush off to work. Why did I have her? Misha is not a puppy. I want to be there for her. Seeing her grow can’t be quantified.” Ok so all working moms are raising puppies?

    When I watched her for the time being candid on Koffee with Karan, I really thought she comes from a well-read family where they wake up in the morning, smell the coffee and read newspaper. But then that’s a smokescreen perhaps? How can you someone who has spent years studying at top institutions and insinuate that women who are working are raising pups and worse, making a casual remark that questions if moms produce kids so they can leave them and go to work? If Mira is even half aware, she would not use her privilege to put down anyone else’s hardwork and professional success.

    BEING A STAY AT HOME MOM

    Stay at home moms-just nothing against them. Great, that’s a choice they are welcome to exercise. But stay at home moms who think doing so is their privilege and suggest other hard- working moms treat their children like puppies – now just what is that about?

    Wear your mom at home label with pride but let’s now talk down women who don’t take that route. Let’s not sit in our castles and question people’s commitment to hardwork, hard earned money and ability to raise kids.

    MAKING CHOICES?

    Now I know it depends on a person to make the choice of whether they want to go out and work or stay at home. And the choice is what feminism offers. However, you know what is also a reality? If we have equal women and men in the workplace, our economy will grow by 60% by 2025, says a McKinsey report.

    When a former LSR student belonging to one of India’s richest families, Mira Rajput makes a statement like, “I choose to be a homemaker and wear the label with pride” on Women’s Day it really means that “I have a slew of helpers running behind me at my beck-and-call and I just want to stay at home and chill because who needs to work when your husband is earning big bucks making movies?”

    MY TAKE…AND SOME SALT

    I may have taken my assumptions galore to the next level. But you see it for yourself, she lives in a plush apartment in one of Mumbai’s poshest locations. Her husband, Bollywood’s actor Shahid Kapur earns more than enough to support a lavish lifestyle for both of them. Not to say that it is any wrong or anything. But what about these definitions.

    FEMINISM IS ABOUT AGGRESSION?

    “It’s about equality. There’s a new wave of feminism that’s come which is about aggression. I feel it’s very destructive. I feel there should be a harmony between the two sexes. If either one of them tries to take the place of other, there will be chaos,” is Mira’s meaning of feminism? While harmony and jazz between the sexes is fine but what is it about defined gendered roles? Is she trying to say that if a woman takes the place of earning money and a man choosing to stay at home, lives would be chaotic?

     

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