No one taught young girls to be confident in themselves, it is not a part of the curriculum. Here and there with the tides of time, she learnt it. Whether the courage to call out sexism or give a tight slap to her eve-teasers, she learned it all along the way. But why do people get intimidated by a strong confident woman? Why confidence is a quality in men, but for women, it’s a flaw?
Why is she perceived as arrogant, ambitious and aggressive not just in the office but around the whole world, if she knows what she wants? Yes, she knows how to excel at work. She is aware of how far she can go. She knows how to maintain professional boundaries simultaneously with keeping good relations with her colleagues. If all of these are part and process of a man’s professional life then why do we get intimidated by these qualities in a woman?
The answer is our society has double standards. The basic belief that women cannot handle so-called ‘manly’ tasks dragged down its hypocrisy. A woman can run a home 24*7, but she cannot run a company. Why? Because if she excels in that it will threaten the self-assumed importance men give to themselves. The peeping insecurity in men will fluid out itself in the form of intimidation. You will be thinking, what next? Nothing, just the catwalk to drag her down as much as they can.
Take this for instance: When it comes to dating, most men would like to go out with a smart, confident and independent woman, but the same want to marry a submissive and sanskari woman. Why? Because men find it easier to be with someone who can be controlled.
Pain shapes the identity
After years and years of injustice still, our society expects her to adjust and fit into what they think is a perfect woman.
The basic belief that confident women do not need anyone and want men around them to be timid and weak is skewed. Everyone needs someone they could love, but by a margin, they know that they don’t need anyone else to define who they are.
A confident woman will carve her path, and make choices and when the time comes she will take responsibility for her mistakes. As of now, the oppression of centuries resulted in capturing both the body and soul of women, only a few are out there who are confident in themselves without being vulnerable about the same.
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Why can’t a man embrace a confident woman?
Most men feel threatened by women who are confident because they are independent in the way they think. A confident woman knows how to maintain her mental peace and doesn’t waste her time. They are secure with themselves and don’t feel jealous.
They are bold. They embrace change and are not afraid to take risks or fail. They know what they want and how to get that. Men find them intimidating only because they don’t act according to anyone’s will and take orders from no one. They decide for themselves and listen to what their mind says. They will not listen to your commands. They will not compromise on their dreams just so that they can fit into yours.
Instead of being intimidated by their confidence, you should learn from them and have more confidence in yourself. Neither Strong women are not arrogant nor do they want to be the centre of attraction, it's just their confidence that naturally makes them shine.
Is it so hard to accept that she is better than you or is your ego too fragile that you can’t see her walk beside you let alone walking ahead of you?
Views expressed are the author’s own.
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